One of the greatest aspects a man may possess is self-control having the ability to be in multiple situations and yet have the control to behave in an appropriate manner because this particular man has a vision. He understands exactly what he desires and fashions his life accordingly.
Having a healthy relationship with a woman requires it and makes this man more attractive. Ever hear the term nice guys finish last? The term suggest a man who approaches a woman with no clear direction and places the woman in an unnatural position to lead, which she takes as feminine and treats you as such. Unless, she is into women your game is over.
Having self-control can be cultivated and achieved through purposeful work. You may start with being faithful in prayer and reading the Bible. God’s wisdom and power will aid in developing self-control. Listen to his instructions. Also, faithfully saving money in the bank, because you have a vision for its purpose also aids in this self-control.
You will notice when you are actively following your vision because of self-control your relationship with your wife will improve and if you are trying to get married you will attract more prospects. Most women want a man who has control over himself and not the other way around.